Once it’s clear that you face a dilemma, rather than merely a problem, you’ve got to stop hoping for a comfortable solution. A new piece of information might land that simplifies things. Maybe an overlooked route will open up that changes things. Scrutiny of the variables could tip the scales convincingly. If you feel stuck with the dilemma after lots of careful thought though, you … Continue reading Dilemmas, and that one tidy solution
There are always going to be problems. Long term satisfaction isn’t found in the absence of problems. It’s in tackling the problems you care about solving. Continue reading Problems, everywhere
It’s usually easier to be right than to convince others. The latter is much more important. Quietly stewing over how they didn’t get it isn’t helpful. Working out how to be more convincing, is. Being helpful is better than merely being right. Continue reading Can you convince them of that
Yes, it’d nice to be seen to be right more often. It’s better, in the long run, to help more people to be right. Not just for your sake. For all of us. Continue reading Being right, more
The more I’ve read about great people accomplishing great things, in their own words where possible, the clearer it is that they’ve made their share of mistakes. Not big political divide style mistakes where ideology is the judge of what’s right and wrong. Personally recognised mistakes, that honest self-accounting has shown up. It’s liberating for me, learning of these. If we show up wanting to … Continue reading Honest mistakes
Bob McKinnon’s weekly blog spoke to me directly today, posting about Frustration. He quotes an article from Psychology Today – “The majority of anger and frustration in life, no matter what the situation, has at its basis one simple thought: It shouldn’t be this way.” But, it is this way. The article offers tips on what to do when you can although sometimes there isn’t much … Continue reading Shouldn’t be, but is – now what
This is true of other people’s behaviour and, of course, our own. Criticism might feel good, but has it improved the area of your concern? Work out how to do the hard things, to make progress for yourself and with others. Kindly, keep going. Continue reading Easy to criticise, hard to correct
I enjoyed an online training session yesterday, aimed at getting comfortable with selling. Asking for money is very difficult for me, however necessary it is and even though I feel I have much to contribute. A key point of the training was to be “available for a yes, and a no”. You put you what you have on the table, and without any pressure invite … Continue reading Being available
I’m giving blood shortly. I last gave blood not long after lockdown started – it’s considered essential, and with good reason. The process is trickier with a pandemic going on, but it’s still happening because of the outstanding work of people (including volunteers) who find a way to make things happen. It’s a reminder that there are lots of ways to contribute. There’s no one-size-fits-all … Continue reading Doing something amazing
I can’t remember where I read it now, but I made half a note at the time as I liked the thought: Responsibility. Formally bestowed, or informally shouldered. Some of our formal leaders are clearly failing. Other, greater, leaders have no authority vested in them – they’re just stepping up and moving us forward. We can all make a difference. . (Photo by Clay Banks on Unsplash) Continue reading Responsibility
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