Goals and direction

A good friend asked me a question about goals and the danger of spiralling thoughts if they’re not reached. In replying I thought about the Stockdale paradox and noted that I’ve been that broken optimist around some of my own desires. If setting a goal that isn’t entirely within your control, or is a remarkable stretch, it might be better to choose merely a direction … Continue reading Goals and direction

Pleasing everyone, all the time

It’s impossible to cater for everyone, especially in contexts that are focused on individual preference. Aiming to do so is the right thing, though there comes a point where a decision must be made on the best compromise. I don’t like to compromise, though there may be no better way when there are finite resources or opportunities. Where compromise is made, we must be conscious … Continue reading Pleasing everyone, all the time

The complete picture, or a composite

Attending to a difficult situation today, I needed to pull together some fragmented perspectives to figure out what was really going on. I wanted to build a complete picture so that I could fairly assess the right course of action. The same events were recalled differently by almost everyone. If the events were recalled the same, then the assumed intent was often different – even … Continue reading The complete picture, or a composite

YouTube projectors

Before I learned to better understand other people’s thinking, I’d pick all sorts of holes in their reasoning based on assumptions I’d made. Often based on feelings I was projecting onto them. This isn’t all that helpful – it creates heat without much light. When I notice that I’ve gotten caught up doing a similar thing now, I enjoy reading some YouTube comment threads. They … Continue reading YouTube projectors