Reading a coaching article about the language we use (with ourselves, as well as others), I noted that we should avoid the words “don’t” and “didn’t” where possible. But, that seems really tricky I thought. I read that “but” should be avoided, too. Then I read that we shouldn’t be avoiding certain words, per se, and we should focus on positive, benefit driven language. There’s … Continue reading Don’t, but, didn’t
A good friend is looking to get back into going to the gym soon, but that’s not a fun way for me to get healthy. As I’m looking to run/walk another long challenge in July, I’m spending lots of time outdoors and bashing up and down steep hills to get fit. Not everyone’s cup of tea. We both want to be fitter and healthier, but … Continue reading Outcome vs activity focus
The more I’ve read about great people accomplishing great things, in their own words where possible, the clearer it is that they’ve made their share of mistakes. Not big political divide style mistakes where ideology is the judge of what’s right and wrong. Personally recognised mistakes, that honest self-accounting has shown up. It’s liberating for me, learning of these. If we show up wanting to … Continue reading Honest mistakes
Interviewing candidates presents lessons for both sides of the table – regardless of the outcome. In a recent interview I was reminded of a Bear Bryant quote I often think of and could heed more in many areas of life: “It’s not the will to win, but the will to prepare to win that’s important.” Train. Practice. Learn. Keep going. Continue reading The will to prepare
What do you mean? When a thought has long been internalised and you’ve gone over and over it without making progress, it can be really helpful to verbalise it with someone else. The bits that were clear to you, you might need to explain. The bits you were stuck on, might be more easily overcome. There’s magic in pulling the idea out of your head. … Continue reading When you say that
After nearly 20 years of working in software development, I want to work with people far more than technology. What I really want to do is switch to coaching. Quite how to make the breakthrough isn’t clear, especially when there are financial hurdles and the economy isn’t throwing life-changing jobs around right now. So I look around the web (thanks, technology – I do still … Continue reading It’s all out there
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