I don’t have a lot of things and my life, right now, doesn’t feel like it’s going where I want it to – at least not quickly. There’s a laundry list of shortcomings I identify with, that my head runs over when it’s stuck in an unkind place. Last night, I watched ‘The Fight’ by Jessica Hynes. I was profoundly when Mick, responding to “somebody’s … Continue reading What to be proud of
More often than I’d like, I don’t immediately have an answer when someone is looking for help. Actually, this turns out to be a help in itself. I listen, actively. I try to re-frame the problem if appropriate, gaining clarity on the key points and cutting through any noise. Very often, this is enough. The conversation has been the help and we both go away … Continue reading What do I have to offer
It’s usually easier to be right than to convince others. The latter is much more important. Quietly stewing over how they didn’t get it isn’t helpful. Working out how to be more convincing, is. Being helpful is better than merely being right. Continue reading Can you convince them of that
Hiking up a tough mountain trail. Facing a grilling from the boss. Making it through the cold and wet. Working out how to make the sale. Satisfying a demanding customer. Almost everything is easier if you have good company. For others, will you be that good company? Kindly, keep going. Continue reading If you have good company
You can’t predict when good luck will drop by, so you better leave the door open just in case. You can’t be sure when you’ll spot some good luck, so you better be on the look out for it, day by day. You don’t always know what good luck looks like, so you better not expect it to be obvious. Good luck isn’t merely waiting … Continue reading Ready for some good luck
As described in Bob McKinnon’s opening episode of his Attribution podcast, we’re almost always conscious of any headwind while not really registering the tailwinds that help us along. As is true when we’re outside, so it is broadly in life. Take a little time to appreciate the help that’s gotten you to today. The people and institutions, the infrastructure and progress made before you. It … Continue reading Headwinds and tailwinds
They’re not always the same. If you’ve got right of way and drive into the path of someone who hasn’t seen you, that’s not helpful. If you have more accurate information than someone else, but you withhold it so you can look good later, that’s not helpful. If the work can be completed satisfactorily, but you’re forcing folks to spend exhausting hours sweating inconsequential detail, … Continue reading Being right and being helpful
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