Many folks think having goals is motivating, and they can be. The words goal and challenge aren’t synonymous though, and the difference is important. I can set a goal of running 5km and, for me, that wouldn’t be motivating precisely because it’s not a challenge. For someone else it will be and I salute anyone tackling what they find difficult – not what I might … Continue reading Goals and challenges are not the same
Well, yes, it’s almost certainly going to be uncomfortable. You feel the need to set boundaries because you’re tired of how things are after a long time without them, or with poor ones. Which means someone else has been getting something by stepping over where the boundaries would’ve been helpful. So… They’d rather not see them in place, ‘cos they’ll have to change. You’ll be … Continue reading The thing about setting boundaries
The last line of an audio exercise I find helpful is: “Consider where do you need to put your attention right now, to make the most of the situation you’re in.” It’s a reminder that we have some choice and positive influence, even in a position we wouldn’t have chosen. It acknowledges that while perhaps you can’t make the situation great, you can make things … Continue reading Consider where your attention is
Back in November 2020 I journaled ‘limiting YouTube browsing would be a good thing’. 18 months on and I could easily write the same. Life coach… coach thyself! Continue reading YouTube – the gift that keeps on taking
I’m enjoying reading “How to Begin” by Michael Bungay Stanier. In it, he refers to the ‘Spouse-ish’ test as one way of getting illumination. How your partner/BFF/sibling responds to your declared goal can be a helpful guide. Not that their response shows the right way forward for you necessarily (they have their own agenda after all), but it gives you something to consider with curiosity. … Continue reading The spouse-ish and heads/tails tests
Today was my last day as an employee (again) and the future is uncertain. I do have a plan, though it’s not (yet) detailed and may not play out. That’s okay. I feel liberated from other’s expectations and empowered to act in my own best interests. Wherever this path goes, it’s a choice I’ve made that I fully own. Continue reading It’s your path – own it
In the company of others, if you want to progress without untoward difficulty, have meaningful conversation, or pleasantly share life’s journey, there needs to be some alignment. That’s not to say everyone wants the same results, or that they’re in agreement – only that there’s sufficient shared direction and common ground that a mutually good result is possible. If there isn’t sufficient alignment there, take … Continue reading Necessary and sufficient alignment
A few times this week I’ve been reminded that wealth isn’t earning lots of money. Wealth is being able to seize opportunities. Wealth is having time to do what you enjoy. Wealth is feeling resilient. Even a modest income can afford someone wealth, while a good income is no guarantee of it. Adjust your sails accordingly. Continue reading The importance of trimming sail
One of the great things about empathy, is it allows you to extend the things you’re grateful for. Today I’m most thankful, not for something in my life, but for the start of a journey a close friend has embarked on. They’ve started a new job with a company that, so far, has shown a far more human touch than most. They’re going to be … Continue reading Empathy and gratitude
I was mentoring a middle school pupil today and we talked about empathy. At the end of the one to one time, the group of kids and their mentors came back together, for the group leader to host a discussion. Each mentee was asked how they’d treat their workers if they ran a company. It’s not an easy group dynamic to speak up in, at … Continue reading With respect, that’s a great answer
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