Precarious purchasing

In this coming year I’m hoping to purchase a home and I’m feeling a strong urge to borrow to the very limit. On the one hand it makes financial sense given a few, seemingly reasonable, assumptions. Over the Christmas period I caught up with a couple who have really stretched themselves for the dream home, while juggling two very well paid jobs and some challenging … Continue reading Precarious purchasing

Crimbo communication challenges

I hadn’t thought it at the time, but listening to the Non-Violent Communication audiobook was great preparation for Christmas day with family. Another big help has been learning to acknowledge stories without getting hooked by them. Unexpected benefits of therapy and work on improving my emotional regulation. Both great investments. Gifts that will keep on giving. Merry Christmas, and peace be upon you. :^) Continue reading Crimbo communication challenges

Poet’s days and growth

“Piss off early, tomorrow’s Saturday.” A phrase I remember fondly from my time in the Armed Forces. Also, Wednesday sports afternoons were a thing, which in hindsight was a real blessing. I recognise now that the Army, at least in my day, invested heavily in developing its people and facilitating their self-development. Not on top of the day job, but as part of it. Time … Continue reading Poet’s days and growth

21 days to better habits – nah

With the New Year approaching and resolutions on the horizon, a reminder to be realistic: “The reality is, changing ‘bad habits’ takes time, and effort and energy, and it’s rarely a smooth process.” – Russ Harris, author of The Reality Slap It’s not 21 days, or 7 steps, or newfound willpower. It’s a commitment and a journey that you can’t fail, only abandon. Kindly, keep … Continue reading 21 days to better habits – nah

So much more done, when…

Once I got the MacBook I was going to learn video editing. I haven’t yet. Once I got my office space I was going to plan my own business launch. Those plans haven’t materialised yet. Once I… You get the picture. Meanwhile, there are so many things you can do lying untouched. Going nowhere while you think wistfully about what you’ll do when… Kindly, get … Continue reading So much more done, when…