The thing about setting boundaries

Well, yes, it’s almost certainly going to be uncomfortable. You feel the need to set boundaries because you’re tired of how things are after a long time without them, or with poor ones. Which means someone else has been getting something by stepping over where the boundaries would’ve been helpful. So… They’d rather not see them in place, ‘cos they’ll have to change. You’ll be … Continue reading The thing about setting boundaries

Consider where your attention is

The last line of an audio exercise I find helpful is: “Consider where do you need to put your attention right now, to make the most of the situation you’re in.” It’s a reminder that we have some choice and positive influence, even in a position we wouldn’t have chosen. It acknowledges that while perhaps you can’t make the situation great, you can make things … Continue reading Consider where your attention is