Before I learned to better understand other people’s thinking, I’d pick all sorts of holes in their reasoning based on assumptions I’d made. Often based on feelings I was projecting onto them. This isn’t all that helpful – it creates heat without much light.
When I notice that I’ve gotten caught up doing a similar thing now, I enjoy reading some YouTube comment threads. They remind me of the dangers of shallow argument based on inadequate understanding, while also usually being a little tickled by what I read.
It’s not always easy to listen non-judgementally and really aim for understanding. It’s very effective though.
Kindly, keep going.