Especially in the current polarising climate, it’s very easy to say you hate or can’t stand someone. What that really means, I think, is that either you see things differently or have different values. In some cases this will be a very strong feeling, of course.
If it’s acknowledged that these are simply differences then it’s much easier to empathise. Much easier to reach out and build bridges. Much easier to see points of similarity alongside the bones of contention. A great deal easier to retain one’s equanimity.
‘That person has different values’ allows us to look at the differences. ‘I hate that person’ discourages us from doing so. Indulging negative emotions makes it harder to maintain balance and perspective.