…isn’t as effective as working to make things different.
The past can have a very strong pull on your attention when thinking about how you’d prefer things to be. You can see the decision points that, if re-visited, could make all the difference.
Of course, there’s no changing the past. What happens here in the present will impact what happens in the future. Looking back can only inform what you do now – helping you make better decisions and avoid similar traps.
Even a small amount of work toward your goal now, will move the needle more than any amount of wishing.